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So, I'm just going to be completely honest with you, I feel like a horrible mom. I know, I know, these things are inevitable and every mother goes through it.
But look, my son is 4-years old. He will be 5 in April. He is so lazy and I have no clue why. We don't allow him to be that way but the kid drags butt like no other. It works my nerves because my husband and I are so not like that.
Anywho, I've been trying to get this turd to go to the potty at night for a very, very long time. He won't get up on his own. I did research and realized that his brain has a lot to do with it and if that little part isn't developed yet then he won't get up. I said, ok, well I'm going to wake him up. :o)
About a month and a half ago I quit buying pull-ups and put him in underwear. I get up about 4 times a night to wake him up to go to the bathroom. We cut off his fluids around 7pm. That's usually after supper and dessert. (I always have dessert, lol) We got a mattress protector for him. The first couple of weeks were like hell on earth; a whiny kid who is all mad at the world because he has to get up to pee.
Y'all ... he is still that whiny kid who has to get up to pee. That heathen even PEED on the bathroom floor because he was too lazy to point it to the toilet. REALLY? I'm not even jokin'. Ladies, I liked to have lost my religion! When I was reading about night time training it said to make your child do all the work, ie. pulling down his underwear, holding his gooby and all that. So, that's what I did. HA!
About three days into it I quit putting sheets on the bed and just laid down a beach towel. I refuse to give him a big comforter because I can't keep washing it in my washing machine. So he gets fleece blankets. Those are much lighter. I'm so sick and tired of dealing with it. I'm tired of constantly doing laundry. I'm tired of hearing the whining at 11pm, 1am, 3am and 5am. I'm tired of him not waking up. I'm tired of threatening him. I'm tired of rewarding him when he does good and the results not continuing.
Everyone I talk to tells me one of two things. 1. Their boys were much older, 6 or 7, before they quit wetting the bed at night. Or 2. Their boys just did it automatically. They didn't have to night-time potty train. I tried that with JD as soon as he got potty trained and it just didn't work.
My husband wet the bed until he was 6 or 7. I, being the smart girl that I am, did no such thing. I was even tying my shoes at 3-years old. My son won't even attempt to do these things. ?? I don't know why! We try. We have patience. We verbally reward, as well as, use tangible rewards. He is even like this at school though.
I mean, don't get me wrong. This isn't a bash JD session. He is a great kid. He's very tender-hearted. He's not ugly to other kids or anything like that. He is forever wanting to pray for people and he loves church. I've never had an issue with him hitting, biting or anything. He's my angel love bug. :o) He is just my 'unmotivated' angel love bug. lol
I'm praying that when Amberly, the new baby, is born JD is going to step up to the plate and start being the big boy that we tell him he is. Oh and that's another thing, he'll say things like "When I'm a big boy .... " and we are like "Dude, you ARE a big boy. That's what we keep telling you but for some reason you don't believe it." If we give him responsibility he whines the whole time and we make him follow through to prove to HIMSELF that he CAN do it because he's very capable. The kid is smart. He has an awesome memory and loves to learn. BUT ... he's lazy. He's unmotivated. He doesn't care.
What do I do? Any tips? Because they things I've read online, advice from friends and family ... all that isn't working with him. Should I put him back in pull-ups and try again later?